How the course is structured & how to pace yourself
What you'll get from this lesson: a map of where we're going and how to travel it without burning out.
Here's the shape of the journey, so you always know where you are:
- Modules 1–2 — Understand. What your child's anxiety actually is, and why working through you is the way in.
- Module 3 — See your role. Mapping the accommodations you're currently making. (This is your first worksheet.)
- Module 4 — Your first tool. Supportive responses: warmth and confidence in the same sentence.
- Modules 5–7 — Plan, announce, act. Choosing one thing to change, telling your child, and following through when it gets hard.
- Module 8 — Bring in your team. Co-parents, grandparents, teachers.
- Module 9 — Your situation. Applying all of it to your child's specific kind of anxiety.
- Module 10 — Make it last. Troubleshooting, next steps, and holding the gains.
If you only remember one thing about the map: Modules 3 through 7 are the spine. That's where the actual change happens. Everything before it gets you ready; everything after it helps it stick. So when you reach those, slow down and give them the time they deserve.
A sane pace: roughly one module a week is plenty. Some weeks you'll move faster; the spine modules may take longer, and should. This is not a race, and there's no benefit to finishing the course while nothing has changed at home.
Use the worksheets. Two of them — the Accommodation Inventory (Module 3) and the Reduction Plan (Module 5) — are the backbone of the whole thing. Don't just read them; fill them in. The parents who write things down are the ones whose families change.
And please resist the urge to skip ahead. It's tempting to jump straight to "reducing accommodation" because that feels like the action. But if you do that before you've learned supportive responses in Module 4, you'll be taking something away from your child without giving them the thing that makes it bearable. Order matters here. Warmth first, then change.
Okay — that's the orientation. From here on, it's the real work, and you're ready for it. I'll see you in Module 1.
Key takeaways
- Modules 3–7 are the spine; give them the most time.
- About one module a week; slow on the spine.
- Go in order — supportive responses (M4) come before reducing accommodation (M5+).
Your action step: Decide where you'll keep your worksheets and notes (a folder, a notebook, a doc). Having one home for this makes you far more likely to follow through.